Losing my boyfriend
January 1, 2007
Franky Alexander Herandez wasn't only my boyfriend, he was like my best friend. Since the year 2005, he was my everything, He was always there for me and I was there for him. Although we got into arguments, our love was still stronger then ever.
The week before his death, we had gotten into a huge argument. We didn’t talk for days, so I decided to call him. He was supposed to come to my house so we could talk about the argument we had.
On December 18, 2010, on his way to my house, there was a drive by. Eight bullets went into Franky's body and took his life away. I could still remember like it was just yesterday. His brother called me and told me, "You have to come to the hospital. Franky is dead. He died.”
Words didn’t come out of my mouth. All I could do was cry and cry, thinking, “Is it true? Is the love of my life really gone?” I didn’t want to accept it, but I knew it was true.
I always knew this day would come. I didn’t think it would be so soon. We would always argue about him being a gangster, because I knew I would lose him one of these days, and I did. "SILENT" was what his homies called him. I always tell myself that name took his life away.
No matter what, till this day I still love Franky. I always will. Nobody could ever replace him.
Rest In Paradise, Franky. I love you.
Reply from Rev. Della
I am so sorry about the loss of your beloved Franky. I’m sure that this past year has been very difficult for you.
It is hard to lose any one you love, but to lose someone in such a senseless, tragic way is even tougher to come to terms with.
It can be healing for you to remember the good times you had with Franky. Think about how much you cared for him and how much he cared for you. Even though his body is no longer with you, your memories of him can keep him alive in your heart.
I hope you are taking care of yourself during this process of healing. When you miss someone you love so much, it can become very easy to forget about what you need. Be sure to treat yourself well.
Even though Franky is gone from this world, his spirit still lives on. You can still talk to him and feel his presence in your life. Try to be comforted in knowing that he is now your guardian angel and he is watching over you.
I wish you much peace.